We're going to be talking about working with a schedule in the future, but today's #tipoftheday is going to help you right now, even before you have a schedule.
Today's tip: Doing a little each day is better than doing everything all in one day. For example, if you did one load of laundry each day, it wouldn't really seem overwhelming, would it? Wake up in the morning, put a load in. Throw it in the dryer at lunch time. Take it out, fold it up, put it away. Done. The machines really do most of the work, right? Let's say it takes you 30 minutes of labor each day. That's not so bad.
Now let's say you didn't do laundry all week. It's a beautiful Saturday morning, but you've got at least six loads of laundry. That's three hours that you've got to take out of your Saturday. And you definitely feel frustrated because that's a massive pile of laundry! You know how ugly it can get. Why are you doing that to yourself?
Do a little every day. Spread out those tasks that aren't fun to do, but have to get done, throughout the week so they don't overwhelm you.
I (Frankie) have learned the hard way how important it is to set goals, and not only to set goals, but to set huge, lofty goals. I know this probably runs contrary to what you've been taught. Let's be honest. Most of us were taught to set "obtainable goals". We were taught to have goals, but make sure it's something you know you can achieve. I call bullshit on that one. I did that all my life and I've been achieving ordinary things. Only when I started setting what most would think were unobtainable goals, did I really start seeing success in my life.
I smoked for 31 years. Most everyone said I would never be able to stop. I set a seemingly unattainable goal to stop and in 2 days, I'll have been a non-smoker for a year. I've set another goal that most are telling me is unobtainable. I am working on getting into good enough shape to compete in a Beach Body contest. I'm 46 years old and I've had 4 babies. Everyone says it's not a realistic goal. Guess what, I've set that goal for myself anyway.
I may set goals that I'll never completely reach, but I'll be a lot closer to something "unattainable" if I set my goals high. I'll never do extraordinary things if I keep setting ordinary goals. So, I'll be going for the gold.
“In every job that must be done,
There is an element of fun.
You find the fun, and snap!
The job’s a game.
And every task you undertake
Becomes a piece of cake.”
Well, I (Andrea) don’t know if there is fun in every job (apparently Mary never had to clean a toilet or scoop out a litter box!), but I do know that once you find the positive attitude to start a task, that task becomes so much easier and the outcome is much more successful.
Last Friday our high school football team started off their season by playing at the University of Michigan’s Big House. It was a great weekend event for several high school teams around the state, and also a fantastic fundraiser for the #ChadTough Foundation.
Our team was ready to win. They stepped onto the field a positive attitude. The kickoff happened. We kicked and the other team received - almost. It was fumbled and we recovered. A few seconds later we scored the first touchdown of the game.
The team wasn’t out on the field thinking I hope we win. The coaches didn’t tell them you can try to win. They came out there believing they would win. They visualized it happening. And they took every opportunity afforded to them to make it happen. And yes, they won. (28-7 - Go Wolves!)
If you want to be successful, you have to start with a positive attitude. You have to believe in yourself and you have to believe you are going to succeed. Any job you do starts long before you actually start doing it. If you wake up in the morning and start thinking how much you dread the job, and how tired your are, and how boring everything is - that’s exactly the day you’re going to have. But if you wake with a positive attitude, with a goal in mind and a “make it happen” mindset, you’ll be more successful and have an amazingly productive day.
Tomorrow morning, wake up and say to yourself: I’m going to have a great day. I’m going to achieve something. I’m ready to make it happen!
It's a funny week. Frankie wrote Monday's blog about The AARGH of things, and separately I (Andrea) had written the #TipOfTheDay about The AARGH. And here we are on Friday, and I am 153% experiencing a huge case of The AARGH.
It's not even 9am here, and my day has just come to a grinding halt. I was up at 5:30am with so much hope and promise, and within three hours, I've tanked it. You don't think it's possible for things to get so messed up in such a short amount of time, but here I am, wondering what the hell happened, and how do I recover?
What's done is done. It's not about what got screwed up in the past three hours. It's about how I deal with the next three hours. How I recover. I can sit here stewing about things, or I can focus my attention on more positive outcomes.
You need to make the choice right now. Are you going to let The AARGH get the better of you and ruin your day, or you going to put The AARGH behind you and know that your next steps will be better ones?
Things fall apart. You wake up in the morning to birds chirping and by the time you lay your head back down it has all crumbled. It was a rotten day. Maybe you lost a client. Maybe you forgot to pay an important bill. Maybe you even forgot that it was your day to be the carpool parent and you left some kids stranded at school an extra 20 minutes. Whatever happens, don't blame yourself. Because once you do, it starts a downward spiral where you lay in bed convincing yourself what a horrible person you are and you should just quit because you're not good enough.
Stop blaming yourself. Shit happens. No matter how good you are, shit happens. It may happen ten days in a row, and it may happen once a month. Take a deep breath. Believe that you're strong enough. Get a good night's rest, and start fresh in the morning. We'll be right there with you.
Frankie and Andrea take turns sharing stories. Just good talk over a cup of coffee.