So….that’s my laptop in the photo above. Let me tell you about last Friday.
It was a decent day. My son had half a day of school. I didn’t have too much work on my plate. I had gotten a lot of writing done at the laundromat earlier. All was well.
I’m sitting at my desk looking over the menu of a restaurant my son and I were going to try. My husband was helping out family so he wasn’t going to be around for dinner. That’s typically when my son and I will try something new.
I picked up my laptop and was walking into the living room with it, like I have done a million times before. My elbow caught part of a door and it happened. Like some slow-motion part of a movie.
It was maybe two seconds in reality, but as I watched it, it was around twenty. The laptop, falling...falling...falling…
It hits the floor.
The screen shatters. Well, yes and no. It shatters in only the way an LCD laptop screen can shatter.
And I yell the only word that comes to my mind: SHIT.
All the positivity for the day, all the happiness for the joy of the weekend, all the excitement of spending a fun evening with my son crashed at that moment.
Form upstairs my son heard me and asked if I was all right. I paused. And said No. Well, yes. I’m all right physically.
I just wanted to cry. I wanted to stomp my feet. Shake my fist in the air. Yell to the world that this was BS and I didn’t deserve it. Eat an ice cream sundae. Go to bed.
But what good is that going to do? Crying isn’t going to make everything better.
Throwing a tantrum and sobbing just means I’ve wasted time when I could have been solving my problem. Maybe it would have felt good for a second, throwing a little pity party. But in the end, my screen would still be shattered and I’d still have a problem.
So - I told myself the one thing that I had to tell myself: Suck it up, Andrea.
Crude? Sure. Harsh? Maybe. Honest? Definitely.
No one but me and my actions were going to fix the laptop problem. And so, I sucked it up. I swallowed the pity party, and moved into problem-solving mode. And two hours later, my son and I had a nice road trip with subs, a potential fix, and fresh from the conveyor belt Krispy Kreme donuts in our bellies. (Not a bad resolution!)
Sometimes you just have to keep going. Keep moving. You’re going to stumble. You’re going to fall. You’re going to drop your laptop and shatter the screen. You can be angry, but don’t stop moving. Don’t stop solving the problems. And it might take a couple of tries. The first fix didn’t work. So I came up with a second one, and that one worked. (And now I know how to repair laptop screens - so please, ask me if it ever happens to you!)
And don’t forget to give yourself a Krispy Kreme as a reward, too.
What's Mule Day you ask? Here is an excerpt directly from the Mule Day Website:
Mule Day is an annual celebration of all things related to mules and is held in Columbia, Tennessee, the “Mule Capital” of the world. Begun in 1840 as “Breeder’s Day”, a meeting for mule breeders, it now attracts over 200,000 people and takes place over seven days. In addition to mules, traditional Appalachian food, music, dancing, and crafts are featured.
Did you see that? Over 200,000 people! What? I (Frankie) had no idea about this when I moved to Columbia, TN in 2010. Columbia isn't a huge town and 200,000 is a whole lot of people. I get road rage on a regular Tuesday around here because I feel like there's too much traffic for such a small town. Can you imagine how I am when over 200,000 new people roll into town for seven days? It isn't pretty.
For a long time I just held my tongue about Mule Day. It's kind of an old tradition, 1840, and I thought maybe it brought some revenue to the town. I'm not so sure that's the case anymore. Maybe through the week some of our small, locally owned businesses do some extra sales, but I found out this year that on Friday, Saturday and Sunday of Mule Day week, most of those close. They have to. They can't get to work to open shop even if they wanted to. Most locals actually leave town that weekend. Some make sure to plan their vacations for the whole week so they don't have to deal with the crazy overcrowding of our town.
It's really not fair to those of us that live here year round. I'm sure the influx of people does help with our revenue on some level, but is it worth it? There are a ton of us that walk at our local park every day. The county made a walking trail just for us and we love it. Mule Day is held at the park. There are signs that designate where to park trailers and tell them not to have mules or horses on the walking trail. I went to walk the Thursday of Mule Day this year and I couldn't. Not only could I not find a parking spot, trailers were parked all across our trails and of course the whole walking trail was littered with crap…literally. It was awful. I missed four days walking because of it, and I know I'm not the only one.
You may think I'm just being a crybaby here, but I'm really not. I do have a point. Sometimes we think what we're doing for our work from home or brick and mortar business is a good thing. Maybe we keep doing things the way we've always done it because that's what has worked in the past. Maybe we start doing some new fangled crap because we think we need to get with the times and try some new ideas. All I'm saying is whatever you do; make sure it's actually good for your business and your clients. Adapt and evolve, but don't alienate. You can't make everyone happy all the time, but you can sure give it a try.
And don't bring in 200,000 new clients and expect your old clients to be happy.
Do you think holding onto traditions is a good or bad thing? We'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments.
Tomorrow is the first day of March, and if you’ve been following along, (you have been following along, haven’t you??) you’ll know that this year I’m gifting myself twelve good habits. In January, I gifted my family a healthy eating habit. In February, I gifted us organization. (And I tackled one closet and the junk drawer. The second closet is still a project!) For March, I’m gifting all of us the good habit of happiness.
Happiness? A habit? Isn’t it just something you feel? Yes. And no.
We are inundated with a lot of negativity in our daily lives. The news wants you to see what went wrong. Because that makes for good ratings. What are social media posts filled with? Bitching. Complaining. Pointing out everything that’s wrong with our lives.
Look. I understand that there are a lot of “not great” things happening in the world on a daily basis. And quite frankly, I’m tired of it. And I’m tired of it affecting how I feel each day. You really have to put in the effort to be happy each day. You have to make the conscious choice of happiness. And to share happiness with others.
I will not let anger consume me. I do not invite negativity into my life.
I say that to myself in the mornings. I don’t watch the news when I wake up or go to sleep. I avoid certain friends’ postings on Facebook because I’m not going to allow myself to be part of their anger. I focus myself toward the positive. Because that’s where I want to be. That’s where I see myself.
So, for March, I am going to post 31 happy posts on our Facebook page each day. Maybe more. Maybe I’ll share a link to something positive. Maybe I’ll post a joke. A silly picture. Kittens and Puppies. People doing good things. Whatever it is, it will be positive. I hope it will make you happy. Stop by each day and make it a habit to find some happiness. I’m going to use the hashtag #behappy in each post so you can find them easily.
Share some happiness with others. Post on our Facebook page some fun, good, silly, happy, positive things that we can all enjoy and focus on.
What are you doing here? Seriously. It’s beautiful outside this week. Simply gorgeous. So why are you here, reading this blog post? (Unless you’re reading it on your phone while you sit in some sunshine at the park.)
Get Outta Here!
It’s February and it has been in the 50s+ all week. For Michigan, that’s shorts weather. So why are you sitting inside? Soak up the sun. Breathe in some fresh air. Open the windows in your house.
Get Outta Here!
I (Andrea) am getting outta here today with my hubby (he’s on vacation). So why do I want to sit at a stuffy old desk when I can enjoy blue sky and sunny weather?
Get Outta Here!
(Oh, if if that doesn’t spark you - today is also National Margarita Day!)
Get Outta Here!
It’s Valentine’s Day. And maybe you think you have to have some kind of significant other to share in the love. And maybe you think you don’t have a significant other. But you do. You have TONS of significant others in your life.
Your family. Your friends. Your children. Your co-workers. (Well, maybe not all of your co-workers. LOL) Your child’s teacher. The people in your church. There are so many people out there wanting love and waiting to give love back.
So, go out there and share the love today. We love you!
Frankie and Andrea take turns sharing stories. Just good talk over a cup of coffee.