I (Frankie) am not a psychologist or anywhere near that, but last time I had to choose a bathroom in public I qualified as a woman so I think that gives me the right to talk about this particular subject without having any special training.
I'm going to reveal a secret about being a woman. Sometimes we are in a bad mood for no reason. I know! It's a shock right? I'll let it sink in for a minute before I go on. Okay, are you over the shock? Good.
Sometimes it just happens. You have a great day. You go to bed and sleep well. You wake up and as soon as you open your eyes you know. You know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it's going to be one of those days. You are totally, completely pissed off and you have no idea why. It doesn't matter how many times your husband or kids or friends say, "It has to be SOMETHING." That doesn't make it true. Sometimes it is absolutely NOTHING!
Now I'm going to reveal an even bigger secret. It's okay to have these kinds of days. You're allowed. There is no golden rule that says we have to be in a good mood all the time. And even if there was a rule, it would definitely be one that would be broken more than followed.
I've found the best way to handle these kinds of days is to just let them happen. I can't talk myself out of them. I can't exercise my way out of them. Sometimes nothing I do can get me out of those moods, so I just let them happen. I admit to myself that I'm in a bad mood for no good reason and I just go with that. I don't beat myself up or feel guilty. I just let it happen. And then the next day is always better.
So go ahead and have a bad day. If it's one of those days where you know nothing is going to make it better, then spend as much time by yourself as you can so you don't make your bad day someone else's bad day, and just let yourself wallow in it for a little bit. Admit it's just a crappy day and then let yourself be POed until you aren't anymore.
Tomorrow will be better. I promise.
Frankie and Andrea take turns sharing stories. Just good talk over a cup of coffee.