Now that it’s a new year and the official celebrations are over, I’ll bet you’ve already got your list prepped and ready to go. You know, that list that tells you all the great things you’re going to do this year. The one that says all the amazing changes to you, yourself, and your world to make an amazing new you. You know. That list. Even if you haven’t written it down, it’s in your head, and you’re thinking about it.
But why are you trying to reinvent yourself for the new year? Why are you trying to make yourself into something entirely new? Just because you might want some positive things to happen to you in the new year, especially if you’re striving to find a place in the work at home world, doesn’t mean you have to be someone totally new.
If you sit there trying to reinvent yourself each year, trying to give yourself lofty goals to make you “better” (whatever that means - because it’s different for everyone), you’re not going to find much success. We’ve put together three tips to help you get focused while still remaining you in the coming year.
We all start by saying “I want to be thin.” Because if I was thinner I’d be happier. And when you’re happier, everything else is perfect, right? Of course not. Your health is important. Ignore thin. Replace it with healthy. “I want to be healthy.” When you’re healthier you have more energy and when you have more energy you want to get more accomplished. And I can tell you, when you work from home, you need twice the energy of the Hulk to keep things going!
Stop focusing on your weight and start focusing on your health. Don’t say “I’m going to lose 50 pounds this year.” Tell yourself, “I’m going to stop drinking pop this year.” Or, “I’m going to park at least ten parking spaces away from any store so that I can walk a few extra steps in my day.”
“I want a new job.” Okay, great. Why? Many people jump from job to job looking for something. What? Are they looking for happiness? Are they just looking for more money? Are they always looking for a different challenge? I don’t know. But jumping from one job to another because you’re trying to find something doesn’t make a lot of sense. It’s wasted effort. Rather than say “I want a new job,” you can say “I want a new opportunity for myself to do something more with my life.” That’s a powerful statement.
If you want to work from home, start working toward that opportunity. Not that job. That opportunity. It should be positive, and hard to do, and completely fulfilling. It shouldn’t just be something until you feel a need to change again.
Here’s a big one. “I want to make more money.” Again, why? Yes, that seems like a foolish question, but really, ask yourself why you want to make more money. Is it so that you can spend more? Because if that’s the case, isn’t that getting into a vicious cycle where you have to keep finding ways to make more to pay for more of the things you supposedly want? And think of all the stress that comes with having to make more money. Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t make more money. More money is nice! I think Frankie and I can both agree that we’d prefer to have more money than less. But you can have more money without making more money. Change your statement. “I am going to spend less this year.” Even better, “I’m going to pay down my debt this year.”
Think about not buying just one item you normally buy each week. Now, I’m not saying something like eggs or oatmeal. I’m talking about something unnecessary. I know a certain company where many of the employees complain about their finances. They are just barely getting by. Yet each day they grab a fast food breakfast and a fast food lunch and vending/gas station snacks. Think about that for a minute. They are spending, at minimum, $15-$20 per day on unnecessary food. Yes, of course we need to eat, but at $20/day, that’s $100/week. You could eat an omelet, pancakes and fresh juice for breakfast and a steak for lunch if you just bought the groceries and made the food. And still have money leftover. Just by making meals, these people could easily put $4,000 in their pockets each year.
I think we’d all be happy with an extra $4,000!
This year, let’s not try to change who we are, but rather, work on tweaking what we already know is great. Tell us about something you were going to change about yourself this year, and then tell us how you can rethink that to say how you’re going to enhance yourself instead.
Frankie and Andrea take turns sharing stories. Just good talk over a cup of coffee.