Each morning I (Andrea) spend some quiet time with my thoughts. Call it what you will - meditation, prayer, visualization - I give myself 20-30 minutes in the morning where I relax, breathe, and commit to a positive, helpful, forward-moving day. It’s needed and most of the time it puts me on the right path for the day.
And sometimes, not.
Sometimes, no matter how hard I focus, and no matter how hard I try to find the good and right and upbeat in things, negativity creeps in.
I’m just wasting my time….
Why aren’t you doing this...
And as soon as one negative thought moves in, others start flowing in pretty easily. I think about conversations I’ve had, and think negatively about people I know, and my mind gets clouded with spiteful, mean, garbage. And when that happens, the whole day seems to be gone. I’ve lost. I’ve failed. What’s the point?
But it’s going to be okay.
Sometimes I think we need these dark moments. We need to go cry in the shower. We need to sneak off and gobble down that secret stash of chocolate you’ve got hidden so that no one else in the house takes it. We need to feel sorry for ourselves and our situation. We need to be angry at others.
We just can’t stay in that mindset. I think you need to go there and visit it so you can say to yourself “I know all this is going on, but I don’t want it.” It’s like knowing you’re a pack rat, and watching the show Hoarders so that you can come face to face with your potential future and say - HELL NO. I’m not going to be that person. And then you hop off the couch and throw out a bunch of stuff and get focused again.
So, face some of your negative thoughts, but understand that you can’t live with them. They are a catalyst to get you moving forward again, and away from them.
It’s going to be okay.
Frankie and Andrea take turns sharing stories. Just good talk over a cup of coffee.