My (Andrea’s) husband is a meme fiend. Seriously. He’s not a computer guy. He doesn’t care about Facebook, or Tweeting or pretty much anything anyone is doing online. But he has this meme thing going on that is just hilariously over the top.
During the day, if we need to chat for a second, we just use Google Hangouts. It’s quick, easy, and we don’t have to disturb each other at work unnecessarily. Just send a sentence or two along and whenever the other is able, we respond.
His responses always are in meme form in some way. Really. He has a meme for every occasion. I’ll bet if I sent him the message: Hey, there was a car wreck on our front lawn just now, and it’s because there was a big dog wearing a tutu running in the road. And now that dog is just lying on top of the car wreck, he’d find a meme to match it.
So of course, in fashion, I need to occasionally have a few memes tucked away for my own purposes. (In a meme war, he wins hands-down.) One day I was browsing images and came across one that said, In the story of Goldilocks, Mama Bear’s porridge was too cold. I get it now. And all of a sudden, it was a light bulb moment.
Of course Mama Bear’s porridge is cold. It’s always cold. Because while everyone else was sitting down to start their meals, she was still bringing things to the table. She was putting things back in the fridge. She was doing a little clean up, just so she could relax afterwards. She was pouring glasses of milk, bringing extra condiments, and cutting up meat. Mama Bear was putting herself way after everyone else.
And it’s something we do. But it’s not right. We can’t put ourselves last. It’s not good for us, and it’s really not good for our families. You know how they tell you on airplanes to put on your oxygen mask first, and then your child’s? It’s because if you’re okay, you can do more for everyone else. But if you’re gasping for air and fainting, you’ve done absolutely nothing for you or your child or anyone else.
You have to take time for yourself. You have to put your mask on first. Your porridge (or in my case, cup of coffee) shouldn’t go cold. Give yourself the attention you need. It’ll make you, your family, your clients, your world happier.
Today, I’m taking care of myself. I’m going to do some shopping, and go out to lunch and then I’m putting my feet up. Because I deserve it. And you do, too.
Frankie and Andrea take turns sharing stories. Just good talk over a cup of coffee.