I (Frankie), am a list making, goal setting, checking things off, strict routine driven kind of person. I have to have a goal, a list, a reason, and I have to have a routine or I'll never get anything done. Being this way all of my life has taught me something. Sometimes I have to take a few steps back and maybe stand on my head and look at the situation from a different perspective to see results.
Over the years I've packed on a few extra pounds. The last 30 lbs I gained when I stopped smoking. So, when I came out of the black hole of breaking free from an addiction, I started thinking about how I was going to get this weight off. All I wanted was to be skinny again. This thought consumed me. I started counting calories and working out for a couple of hours a day. At the end of a month I finally got up the courage to step on the scales. I had gained 2 pounds! I was devastated.
Oh! Woe is me! I just want to give up. Maybe if I start smoking again I'll lose the weight. Maybe if I only eat fruit and water for a month I'll lose the weight. Maybe if I just don't eat at all for a month I'll lose the weight and be SKINNY again. After about 2 weeks, (and countless bags of chips and cookies), of this kind of thinking I realized how stupid this all was and sat down to really think about my situation.
I started doing some research and found out that I was probably not eating enough for as much as I was working out. This blew my mind. I've always been taught to lose weight we need to restrict calories. Now, I'm being told to eat more. I also realized that I needed to focus more on being healthy and not skinny. Apparently there is a real thing called "skinny fat" where you are skinny, but unhealthy. My whole reason for stopping smoking was to get healthy. I started to understand that I needed to approach losing weight with that same goal in mind. I wanted to get healthy and if I lost weight in the process, then great!
It's been 2 months since I started looking at this whole weight loss thing from this perspective. I've lost 14 lbs. But even more than the weight loss, I FEEL great. I feel HEALTHY. I'm halfway to my goal weight and I haven't even really been trying that hard to lose weight. What I did was refocus and rethink my goal and change my perspective. I started concentrating on trying to get healthy. The weight loss has just come as part of that.
If you're stuck, if the scales aren't moving, if the new product isn't selling, if the blog isn't taking off, if you're not finding any work, if the kid or the dog just won't do what you tell them to, maybe you should stand on your head and look at the situation from a different perspective. Sometimes that can make all the difference.
Frankie and Andrea take turns sharing stories. Just good talk over a cup of coffee.