I (Frankie) know I've mentioned probably 1,000 times that I quit smoking a year ago, gained a lot of weight and have been working to try to get that weight off and stay healthy. My husband is a great guy and works out with me and helps plan healthy meals, but he isn't much of a compliment giver. It's not that he doesn't think nice things it's just that he doesn't think to SAY nice things.
After our workout the other night he hugged me up and kissed me on the top of the head and told me how proud of me he is. I said, "For what?" And he said…wait for it…"For everything! You have done so much in the past year. You quit smoking, got your anxiety under control, and now you're killing it getting your health under control and reaching your goals." I was floored. He literally almost never gives compliments like that.
You might think that what he said wasn't a compliment. You may have it in your head that compliments are all, "You're so beautiful. Have you lost weight? Wow, you look hot." All those are fine, but when someone compliments you on your accomplishments, things that you have to do, things that aren't in any way left up to genetics, those are the real compliments. Those are the ones that keep me smiling and self-confident for weeks after. If you tell me I look like I lost weight today, I'll wake up tomorrow and probably have forgotten all about it. But, if you tell me I've done an amazing job at something, I'll remember that for a very long time.
Sometimes we forget to tell people how amazing they are, what a good job they are doing at work or just at life in general. Sincere compliments about achievements go a long way. People appreciate those. I know I do. It's been 3 weeks since my husband told me he is proud of me for everything and there hasn't been a day between then and now that I haven't thought about that and smiled. So get out there and get to it. You're doing awesome!
Frankie and Andrea take turns sharing stories. Just good talk over a cup of coffee.