Feeling appreciated for the things you do is important. As I (Andrea) write that, a little voice inside my head says that’s very selfish. You do things because you want to, not because you want to feel appreciated. But the fact is, even if I want to do things, it’s really nice to feel appreciated for doing them. And it feels awful when you aren’t appreciated (seemingly or actually).
One of my clients has a team meeting once a month. Originally it was all by phone. Everyone would be online together. Those people that were near the office would all get together, go out for dinner, or drinks, and some fun. The rest of us who worked from home far away just went about our business. It was a bit of a bummer because it was hard to see everyone else get treated to some fun time while you’re sitting at home, still working.
Recently, the meetings became “video” so that we could all see each other. I thought it would be great - more personal. It’s hard to pay attention in a meeting when you can’t see who you’re talking with. But the video meetings have proven to be even more difficult. We had the December/end of the year/holiday meeting, and we got to see everyone at the office laughing, smiling, having a nice lunch, wine, etc. Those of us not there were stone-faced the entire meeting. The office people were going out after to have some fun. The rest of us were continuing on with our day.
It made me (and I’m assuming “us”) feel left out and unappreciated for our efforts. Yes, we couldn’t be there in person, but couldn’t the client acknowledge the rest of us in some way? Perhaps sending us each a gift cert to grab a Panera lunch on meeting day so we could all be treated together as a team and truly have a lunch together.
And I’m not saying that people have to buy gifts for you to make you feel appreciated. I had a client buy me an iPad and I’ve had a manager who would buy me Happy Meals to thank me for all the effort I put in. Both were equally fantastic for me. I have a client who just sends me emails that tells me she appreciates what I do for her. And I love that. It tells me that what I'm doing is making a difference to someone.
So, what am I trying to say here today? First, I want you to know - we want you to know, that we appreciate you following us on Facebook, and reading our blog, and sharing with friends. We appreciate you giving us the opportunity to do this thing we’re doing here at Coffee Talk Consulting. I can’t buy all of you a Happy Meal, but maybe if we see each other at Starbucks, I’ll buy you a cuppa and we’ll have a nice chat.
Second, pass along the appreciation. Especially this week. There are a lot of people that are going to be working hard to help you. Perhaps they’re your employees. Perhaps they’re your child’s teacher. Perhaps they’re the salesperson that just went the extra mile for you after having to deal with five angry customers. Whomever they are, tell them they are appreciated. Give a heartfelt thank you, and a smile, and show them warmth and gratitude. They probably really need it right now.
You can also show your appreciation to them here in the comments below, and also on our Facebook page. Let us know who you appreciate, and share it with them so they know, too!
Frankie and Andrea take turns sharing stories. Just good talk over a cup of coffee.